8 April 2020 | Source: Oswaal Books Editorial Board | Join the Discussion
There is no doubt that parenting is a tough job. The problems may vary according to the children’s growing stages, but there is never a day that doesn’t bring new parenting challenges. Now, while these challenges are a part and parcel of parenting life, you can definitely mitigate them by nurturing a good relationship with your children. Communication is the key here.
You need to create open dialogues with your children so that you both can understand each other’s expectations and be on the same page. Here Oswaal Books is sharing some useful tips to improve communication with your kids.
When your children are talking to you, give them your complete attention. Drop everything you are doing and listen to what they are saying without interrupting them. This will show your children that you are genuinely interested in hearing them out. They will feel comfortable approaching you every time they want to share something with you. This will also teach them to become a good listener when you are talking to them.
Your first instinct should be to warn your children when you don’t want them to do something you don’t approve of. For example, you may want to say, “Don’t keep the volume of television loud”. Instead, you should say, “Please keep the volume of television slow.” The former statement is negative and comes across as a rebuke in the minds of children. However, when the same thing is said in a positive connotation, it comes across as a polite request and reinforces positive behavior in children.
Books are a great way to build strong communication with your children and spend quality time with them. You could make a daily ritual of reading aloud storybooks indulge in novel reading or share book reviews which each other.
Books can also help you communicate good habits or talk about sensitive subjects like bullying and good touch bad touch to your children.
Your children look up to you to solve their problems and address their queries. When they share their concerns with you, don’t jump to conclusions immediately. Do not judge or criticize them. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand the situation from their perspective. Be empathetic and acknowledge their feelings.
Communication issues may also arise between you and your children during study hours. In case, you are trying to explain a concept to your children from school textbooks, and they are not able to understand it, don’t get frustrated and end up yelling at them. Instead, it is advisable to refer e-learning resources to understand the concept from a new angle. There are several online videos, mind map techniques, flow charts and visual reference material that can make study time easier for both parents and children.
You want only the best for your children, and hence, it is natural that you want to make decisions on their behalf. However, this can actually adversely impact their development. Sometimes, just let your children make their own decisions and understand the consequences themselves. So, what if they fail or make mistakes? They will learn lessons from their mistakes and always remember that success doesn’t come easy. Mistakes also teach your children to handle disappointments, build their problem-solving ability and improve their reasoning power. Never ever say, ‘I told you so’ when they make mistakes. Instead, appreciate that they were brave enough to take decisions on their own and tell them that it is fine to make mistakes as long as they learn something from it.
Your children follow what you do. The same logic applies to your communication style. They are likely to imbibe the way you talk, listen or express. So, be careful about how you conduct yourself in the children’s presence.
Follow these communication tips shared by OSWAAL BOOKS, and you will see a positive change in your parent-child relationship.